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Just resolved contact dispute by helping client understand where his ex was coming from.They exchanged a couple of texts and contact back on

 

The background to the above Tweet is that I had a dad call in to see me today who had not seen his child for 3 weeks, and who had convinced himself that he wanted to make an application to court to get to see his son. He was certain that his ex couldn’t be mediated with, and that only an order would do. I wasn’t so sure, as to me it was a bit of a non-dispute, that had it’s root in both of them failing to understanding the difference between clear consent and ambiguity of intent.

I asked him for his phone and started to draft a text to his ex. I let him read it through, and he ok’ed it being sent. Within a minute an encouraging reply came back. I repeated the process twice more, with the result being that he will be seeing his son as before, with contact resuming this Sunday.

If my client had been to a solicitor, he would have been at the beginning, not the end of his journey back to having contact with his son. Litigation would have put that dad on a hamster wheel of letter tennis, adjournments, contact centres, stress, bills and frustration. Many months would have passed and any trust that existed on either side would have long been extinguished.

As someone who normally deals in very high conflict cases; those that are (in my view) incorrectly categorised as ‘intractable’, this is not uncommon. And whilst I don’t want to give my magic secrets away, it isn’t the first time I have made contact happen this way. It is however, the first time I have blogged about it.

My message to the McKenzie friending and lay advice community in family law is NOT to feel compelled to rush to expensive mediation or litigation to resolve a dispute. The great lie that the vocational legal community are loathe to talk about is that consent needs willing parties, not warring lawyers.

My sagely advice is to try to understand the nature of the dispute from both sides first, and don’t fall into the error that solicitors fall into with their ‘my client, my client’ mentality. The parent and his or her children will thank you for it.

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Lest anyone get the impression that I am a crane climbing, superhero costume wearing, purple powder throwing, card carrying member of any of the F4J’s; unable to say anything positive about members of the judiciary, this post should go some way to disavow readers of that notion. Regular readers of the blog will recall that I reported on a positive experience involving Master Redpath before, so I feel I have a history of giving credit where it’s due to members of the judiciary.

Our regulars will also recall that I have been  bleating on for over a year about a litigant in person list, so that litigants know when they are on. More like a doctors surgery, and none of this dozens of cases listed for 9.30am nonsense, and the poor self litigant not getting in until all the clever lawyers have finished their machinations around midday.

Whilst that experience some while back with Master Redpath wasn’t totally unpleasurable, it wasn’t anywhere close to how I am used to being treated in England and Wales.  The experience today in front of Master Bell in Belfast was much closer to how it should be done.

Do read on…

I was in front of Master Bell in an Ancillary Relief case that I had been asked to assist in at short notice.  My client had run out of funds, owed their lawyers some money and had to represent themselves.  [ Experienced McKenzie friends and lay advocates with be thinking " WHAT ABOUT THE FILE?? HOW ARE WE GOING TO GET THE FILE IF A LIEN IS EXERCISED ON IT???" Well you lot in the cheap seats can just shut up and let me get  on with my account of this hearing].

I hadn’t perused any of the papers in this long running case, and as my client had very recently parted company with their solicitor, there weren’t any papers to read beyond the usual ragtag shopping bag full of papers that clients seem to accumulate. I didn’t even have time to read them anyhow.

Arriving around 9.20am I knocked on Master Bell’s door and introduced myself to him, and shortly thereafter the other sides solicitor popped their head round the door. Following my submission that I would be grateful if my client could be heard first, Master Bell invited us to find counsel and return anon.

Master Bell listened to everything that my client had to say, and I at least left feeling that we had been heard. I was also impressed that Master Bell also scolded counsel on more than one occasion for attempted point scoring, instead of this faux joint telling off that some Magistrates such as Mr Magill seem predisposed to give.  Master Bell also let me speak on behalf of my client and the hearing had a very collaborative  feel to it. I must also commend counsel for quickly grasping that the case couldn’t proceed. All in all, a relatively stress free introduction for my client to the challenging job of self representation.

Although I wouldn’t dream of being so bold as to suggest this formally, if I were Sir Declan Morgan, the Lord Chief Justice of Northern Ireland, I would have no hesitation in appointing Master Bell to any future committee considering how to respond to the increasing numbers of litigants in person in the Northern Ireland family courts. Master Bell did a fantastic job today, and I commend him for his even handed approach; and I have every expectation that we will get a fair hearing in front of him if the case can’t be settled by negotiation.

 

 

 

 

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Just in the airport lounge at Liverpool after a most excellent seminar on ‘Thorpe’s Law’, otherwise known as the Leave to Remove law in the UK after Payne -v- Payne.

Excellent organisation by Emlyn Jones and top quality contributions from Mike R0binson of Custody Minefield fame.

This seminar had particular resonance for me as on Thursday I was in front of Thorpe and Etherton LJJ and Morgan J  in London. They kindly granted me a right of audience.  The LJ’s granted permission to appeal but rejected the substantive appeal. I will publish the judgement here when its available.

Father is likely to go to Supreme Court next. Any counsel that want to help contact me on help@mckenziefriend.com

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Part 2 of The Children, Schools & Families Act 2010– The Lord Chancellor’s Confidence Trick

April 28, 2010

PART 2 OF THE CHILDREN, SCHOOLS & FAMILIES ACT 2010– THE LORD CHANCELLOR’S CONFIDENCE TRICK by Dr Michael J.Pelling 0. INTRODUCTION This briefing note examines the newly enacted Part 2 of the Children, Schools & Families Act 2010 (c.26) ["CHSFA"] which originated from Lord Chancellor Mr Jack Straw and the Ministry of Justice and which [...]

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“Your numbers up Payne v Payne” Time for change?

April 27, 2010

Sorry for the hiatus, but was on paternity leave after the wonderful Mrs McKenzie produced yet another beautiful baby McKenzie. I have been doting on my son, as new father’s should do. I did keep one case in my list though; a Leave to Remove case at Circuit level in England. How I wish I [...]

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Grandfather gets Interim Residence Order – Coronation Street

March 11, 2010

It could only happen on TV… An ex parte (without notice to the other side for the non legals) Interim Residence Order granted for a grandfather in his late 60′s/early 70′s. Best bit was that there is a hearing next Wednesday where a final decision will be taken! Oh how I laughed. In reality it [...]

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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Contact

March 4, 2010

This article is likely to offend most people who read it, and I don’t make apology for that as most people who read this blog are legally minded people including those in the legal profession, judiciary and expert witness pool. It is their Karmic duty to be offended for some of the questionable things they [...]

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No sombrero required

February 25, 2010

Regular readers will remember the Mexican stand-off I had with Master Redpath a few weeks back. Was back in front of him today and had a totally different experience, and in the interests of fairness I thought I should tell you about it. A very endearing barrister came round and spoke with me. No posturing [...]

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A judicial climbdown on McKenzie friending in Scotland – almost, but not quite… YET

February 24, 2010

Who needs the final series of Lost when we have Lord Hamilton to keep us on the edge of our seats, not knowing what’s coming next? First it was that McKenzie friends should sit behind and not beside the litigant in person… In preparation for taking the short journey by ferry from Belfast to Stranraer [...]

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Book review ” The InFighters Guide to Divorce ” by Richard Marsden

February 21, 2010

I asked for a review copy of the InFighter’s Guide to Divorce quite some time back, and the author very promptly dispatched it to me. I very promptly misplaced it and only came across it last week under a Hayne’s manual at my office. The first thing that strikes you is the size of the [...]

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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Contact – an updated view from the trenches

February 21, 2010

Gosh Doesn’t social media move fast! I had hardly had time to post and Tweet about PTSD and contact when someone emailed me on help@mckenziefriend.com to tell me about a case they were involved in where the mother alleged that she had PTSD and couldn’t countenance contact! More on that story to come when I [...]

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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Contact – a view from the trenches

February 21, 2010

Been extremely busy recently with both work and family and haven’t had much time to spend on the blog. Apologies for that. Hopefully normal service will resume. Now that I am back in Belfast, my phone and Inbox are filling up with the ‘same old same old’ of hard done by stories about the Magistrates [...]

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Time for a litigant in person list in Belfast family courts?

January 29, 2010

Had the old Mexican stand-off with Master Redpath yesterday (Thursday), who was sitting in room 2.21 at the High Court in Belfast. His list had our client, who was a litigant in person listed for 9.30 with the rest of the mentions at call over. The Master and his office were well aware that I [...]

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McKenzie friends and ‘communication’ in Northern Ireland family courts

January 27, 2010

Just thought I would share the following letter with our readers that was sent to both Lady Silvia Hermon MP and Nigel Dodds MP seeking clarification on the law on Northern Ireland in relation to ‘communications’ of documents and other information on Children Order and Matrimonial Causes Order cases. From: John Junk [mailto:belfast@familycourtsupport.co.uk] Sent: 22 [...]

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Real Fathers for Justice in Northern Ireland meet SDLP at Stormont

January 19, 2010

By their own account RFFJ NI had a successful meeting with the SDLP at Stormont yesterday. I haven’t seen any press release from the SDLP, setting out their commitments but I may just have missed that. Other groups such as Families need Fathers and Fathers for Justice in Northern Ireland need to take a leaf [...]

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Northern Ireland politicians and others in Contempt of Court for discussing Children Order matters?

January 19, 2010

Having taken some time out to concentrate on political developments in Northern Ireland, most of our original readers will be glad to hear that I am going back to my specialist subject, family law reform. Of course I would like our new readers to stay, but unless the issues I normally blog on affect them [...]

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